our little blessing

Our son Teak Joseph Head was born on October 28th, 2010. He has been a blessing in our lives even before he was born. We truly feel honored that the Lord chose both of us to be the parents of this special boy. Teak was born with Spina Bifida Myelomeningocele and a minor hearing loss in both ears. Both un-related to each other. These are the curve balls of life. You never know when they are coming, you just keep your head up, step up and hit back with prayer, strength and love.
Welcome to our lives. Teak will one day change the world for the better just the way he has changed us.

Folic Acid Hoopla

Some may not like my title but I had to put that because I am so beyond annoyed with the folic acid commercials and the lawyer commercials about certain prescription drugs.  When you have a child with a disability of any kind or severity, there is always a touch of guilt that goes along with being the mother who carried the child in her womb, taking care of this unborn child as best as she knows how.  The majority of parents who are told that their child has Spina Bifida do not know what it is exactly.  They have to Google (unfortunately) or find forums to figure out what they need to know and compare to what the doctors told them about it. Okay, I am running a wry with this but it just really upsets me the amount of people who open their mouths to parents with Spina Bifida children about folic acid...didn't you take folic acid...why didn't you take folic acid...you should take folic acid...alright already.  Some of us didn't take any folic acid in the beginning of our pregnancies (SB occurs in the first 4-6 weeks) and some of us were taking it months in advance before we got pregnant...so there, chew on that for awhile...
First of all, I have spoken to a research doctor personally who has been studying Spina Bifida for the past 20 years, um, yes, I said 20 years, well, he stated that there is still no real cause of SB.  He stated sure they have shown that folic acid can sometimes help with neural tube defects and SB does seem to show up genetically at times but NO KNOWN CAUSE.  So in other words, taking folic acid may or may not have changed the outcome of our children.  However, with that being said, when we start to try for another child, I will take the extra doses of folic acid because it couldn't hurt, right?
Side note to civilians of all kinds, doctors, especially new or still studying doctors, and family members, please keep it to yourselves about folic acid if someone you know mentions they have or are having a child with SB.  Don't you think that they are already beating themselves up with the unknowns.  OUR children are special in the best way possible, they are the way they are supposed to be and will change this world one day, just wait!
So here are some other kind of rants about folic acid...they are a little nicer.  High Five to all the SB parents out there! 

But Didn't You Take Your Folic Acid?

SB Awareness